So writing the ABOUT section made me think of a conversation with a friend of mine. I met this person a few years ago and we were having one of those “get to know you conversations”. You know the conversation, what do you do for a living, did you go to school, what are your likes/dislikes….etc. Well one of the things I like is heavy metal music, pretty much most genres. However, this does not mean I do not listen or like other types of music. On the contrary, I DO! Very much so. But since then this friend of mine, who by the way is a very close friend, has put my into this category, box if you will, and won’t let me out.
I was at a club with some friends and he arrived and wanted to spend a little time with me so invited me to another club that was a little more intimate. So we get to this club and he apologizes for the type of music they are playing. I was like REALLY? HUH? It was a club that played electro-techno styled music. I explained to him there was no need to apologize I liked it. He was genuinely surprised about this. He said that in his general experience that he has found that most people who like metal just don’t really care to hear anything else. Again…REALLY? Wow! I explained to him that I rather enjoy most styles of music albeit there are a few exceptions. (Those being: rap, country, most R & B)
There are still moments til this day that this comes up with him even years after these initial conversations. We were taking about going to a festival and he was saying how he didn’t think I would like any of the bands. My first thought upon hearing this was “here we go again”. So I looked up the festival. It was a techno style festival. I also saw that one of my FAVORITE bands was playing and this set him aback. Again…REALLY?
So when it comes to this person either he forgets previous conversations and has a memory of a fruit fly or he really categorizes people and his brain can’t not comprehend someone liking more than their primary style of music.
So with him I am stuck in this box which is rather frustrating since I don’t do that to him.
This is like looking at someone who wears glasses and saying they are a nerd. That is not true some of us just like to see clearly….perhaps he should borrow my glasses!
Mechanization of My Mind 